Isn’t it frustrating when you’re on a date or with social groups and DON’T KNOW how to start a conversation or even keep it going? You know, where you might say something, you get a response and it seems like a dead-end road from there?
The thing is, it’s not even your fault. You do your best to come off friendly to others but somehow they misinterpret you to be stuck-up, rude, or worse…creepy.
Conversation is the building block behind bonding in social groups. Even those who are mute use sign language to bond and communicate with others.
The fact of the matter is your likability factor goes up dramatically when you can learn how to start a conversation. But how do you go about doing it?
Most people who have trouble figuring out what to say next usually employ a mechanical approach to conversation.
What’s a mechanical approach?
Mechanical is when you have a break in your conversation because you’re trying to think along the lines of what was said before. When you reflect on what was just said (the topic) figuring out how to continue on it. And you feel stuck because you don’t know what to say next. You can have all the topics in the world but if you use mechanical response you’ll destroy every conversation topic out there.
Whereas there’s another approach, where you have a topic and branch out smoothly to any other subject YOU DESIRE. It’s something I’ve used for a long time and haven’t shared with anyone until I wrote this blog. With my inner circle of friends it’s known as the “abstract method”.
Think of the most BORING topics like the rainy weather. Would you know what to say next? Well you know there’s this place up on the mountains I’m not sure where. But it’s shaped like a massive brick, a plateau. Basically all that happens up there is rain 24/7, like a tropical jungle. I would love to have a little hut up there to just get away. I saw it on msn.com as one of the top exotic places for vacation.
Speaking of vacation what’s your favorite places to travel?
From Cancun Mexico and it’s party life (party life – which you can talk about.)
To Rome with its historic architecture from the ancient times. (And you can talk about history.)
Connect from one idea to another and transition in such a way. That’s when you’re VERSATILE in conversation and people are comfortable being around you because you can talk about ANYTHING.
That’s an extended version. You if you’re really good you can go from rainy weather to favorite vacations without that stuff in between. It’s how much content you want in your conversation. If you have trouble figuring out what to say next do the extended version and get started.
Now…if you want to learn how to start a conversation that not only gets people interested but gets women GLUED to what you have to say next, a method that becomes ten times more effective you should