To overcome social anxiety you have to tackle it from different stages, I’ll talk about one of them in this article but first…
Admit it. At some level those war movies, secret assassins, ninja & samurai wars, Spartans…they call to you.
I’d say pound for pound there are more men out there who like these movies than there are women. Don’t you think?
I thought we’re supposed to be in the age of men liking what women like and women liking what men like.
You’re not going to find very many women who are mesmerized by bullets flying, choppers exploding and bad-guy-ass-kicking.
If by any chance you’re a woman reading this thinking “I like all that” then DUDEee you need to call me, I’ve been searching for you all my life.
The rest of you stay focused!
I’ve studied psychology for a number of years now and I found something very interesting. It’s that men and women are wired differently. We’re not the same. On a larger scale there are different things that we men are drawn to.
When we watch action movies there’s something that stirs us up inside and we connect with it. Something very primal that we don’t experience often, or should I say in modern times that aspect of life is virtually erased. It’s a key as to why it’s hard to overcome social anxiety.
In the ancient times men recognized this innate part of us and cultivated it and developed it embracing a part of us that in this day and age is suppressed. You might say “Well, cultivating that part of us that wants action and adventure will turn us into a dumb brute.” And I say “Bullshit”.
When you can cultivate that innate natural part of you it gives you PERSONALITY. Think of it as developing a natural foundation on top of which personality and character is built. It’s one of the factors that gives us substance.
When that “foundation” isn’t nurtured and brought out the way it’s supposed to it causes shyness, social anxiety, and social awkwardness.
THAT’S one of the major factors of shyness because the structure isn’t completely there to support your personality. It’s when you go up to people to talk and don’t entirely feel comfortable with yourself.
Heavy isn’t it?
Alright take a deep breath. You can actually eliminate that problem.
There is a way to get out of that shyness, build a strong, powerful personality that people are magnetically drawn to and commands respect. Not only that but you can attract the types of people you want around you and have the kind of social life style you’ve always wanted just by changing a few things about you.
Here’s how you do it… Have you seen those guys who are naturally powerful in social environments, who can walk up to people and start a conversation and they’re not even nervous?
You need to find those guys and HANG-OUT with them.
The fortunate thing about us is we pick up and LEARN from the examples of others. You know that saying “Monkey see-Monkey do?” Yeah, if you can surround yourself with a few guys who are exceptional in the social environment and have the traits you are looking for you’ll start to get it.
Go do it right now!
If you’re thinking “Well I don’t really know how to connect with those people.” Then you need to learn things like conversation skills (learning it is a good step to overcome social anxiety), you need to learn how to attract people around you. If you want conversation skills that glues people to what you have to say next, be able to walk up to women at bars and have them like you, get invited to cool social gatherings, have an edge in virtually any social interaction right now click here to view the ebook page that tells you exactly how to do that.
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