Has this ever happened to YOU? You’re with a group of people and when they talk over you, you quiet down because of shyness?
How about this, you’re with a group of people and the guys don’t seem to like you for some reason, and they marginalize you making you feel out of place?
There’s little known social techniques you can use to prevent these situations from happening. When you can learn to not only avoid these instances but prevent them before it happens it gets much easier to overcome shyness.
When situations like these happen most people would try to get the approval of the guys to fit in. Sounds like a reasonable strategy doesn’t it?
WRONG! Alright if that was your way of thinking it’s not your fault.
You’ll hear me say this a lot: Shy guys try to fit in by doing the same things over and over again but have it never work out. The reason is the obvious and logical solution to social dynamics is almost always NOT the right answer.
If it was that simple wouldn’t a lot of guys have figured out how to overcome shyness?
Fortunately for you even guys who seem social, those guys who marginalize you, even they make the mistake of doing what seems obvious. And you can use this to play to your advantage.
When guys are in the presence of a woman (especially an attractive woman) will kiss her ass, put her on a pedestal, act awkward to get her attention, approval, and at the end of the day try to get into her pants.
They hand over power to her without giving it a second thought. EVERY guy in the group wants to be liked by the woman.
If you can become the guy who’s not drooling all over her, and talk to her just like a regular person…you know not-hit-on-her. If she’s cool with you, others won’t try to mess with you because it risks losing her approval and their chances with her. Better yet, if she’s attracted to you then its game over, you can do or say whatever you want and the guys will not argue (that’s another lesson all together).
Most guys in the group will want her attention and approval. And if you already have hers then you automatically get everyone else’s respect. It’s a short-cut.
Instead of trying to get on EVERYONE’S good side you do it with one or two key people and instantly you’re “IN”.
If you want to learn more on how to attract more friends, overcome shyness, handle bullies and literally dominate the social environment